Part 3: The Relationship

Aside from the tragic dating experiences I’ve told you about, there are many other reasons why things might just fizzle out between you and your crush.

Whether it’s down to the simple fact that you aren’t compatible, or maybe University is causing an issue or (speaking from personal experience) they chose someone else over you (ouch!), these things don’t always have a fairy-tale ending.

But, don’t let that dishearten you.

Life is all about learning and the same applies to the whole dating experience. It’s safe to say, this is something that definitely shouldn’t be rushed! I never used to believe my friends when they said ‘you’ll find someone’ because it just seemed impossible.

But they were right.

Now I’m not saying that you have to go to University to meet someone, but that’s what miraculously happened to me…

However, focusing on being the best you can be is far more important than any relationship. Afterall, if you can’t love yourself, how can you love someone else?

It’s probably at this stage I should publically apologise to my friends for the amount of times I’ve said: “Sod it, I’ll just be single for the rest of my life and have 40 cats” because everything they were saying was true, I just wasn’t in the right position to believe it.

Things happen when you least expect them to and that’s the weird beauty of dating. If you search for something, it will never be there.

Not to brag, but my experience of pursuing the wrong guys would make a great comedy sketch… just saying…

The thing is, when you find the right person, it’s like everything falls into place. Trust me, you will know this when it happens, because any previous bad experiences/relationships make it so obvious when things are going right.

A visual representation of how it feels when everything falls into place…
Photo: bayasaa

Without sounding like a soppy teenage romantic, you just know when you meet the right one. Now, I’m not saying you’ll meet THE one first time round (unless you’re super lucky) but you will meet the right partner for the stage of your life that you’re at.

Take it from a dating beginner who is in her first relationship, it happens to everyone. Falling in love is scary, don’t get me wrong, but it’s equally as rewarding. Knowing that you have that person by your side who will support you through anything is a feeling I can’t fully describe.

But, it really isn’t the be all or end all.

Sure it’s great, but you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. Spending time with friends, focusing on what you love and being confident in yourself and your skills is equally (if not more so) important.

For me, this last point wasn’t an easy step to make, the highs were often followed by the lowest lows, but your opinion of yourself does get better and I suppose I could say I am proof of that.

Thank you all for reading this series, I hope you’ve enjoyed reading it!

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